Last night I had a monthly meeting after work. I'm usually home by 8:30 at the latest. I decided to stop by my parents house after the meeting to visit for a few minutes. I debated not telling W I would be late, but then realized that would be very hypocritical. So I sent her a message- Me: I'll be home in a bit. Making a pit stop. W: Like at a bar? Me: I wish!!! W: Oooookkkaaayyy
The strung out "ok" is her way of expressing frustration. She was sleeping when I got home. This morning on the way to work we had a brief chat about it- W: So did you have fun on your cryptic outing last night? Me: What do you mean cryptic? W: You know what I mean. It’s like you’re intentionally vague lately. If I did that to you you’d be pissed. Me: Interesting. I wasn’t being intentionally anything. W: Well what were you out doing? Me: I stopped by my parents’ house. W: Oh.
A little later I told her I had plans tonight (GAL!)- Me: I’m going to go out after S goes to bed tonight. W: Oh really. How about you ask, “Do you have anything going on tonight? I’m thinking about going out?” Me: Ok… “So I’m thinking about going out tonight… do you have anything going on?” W: Nope. That’s fine.
She doesn't seem to like me breaking way from my predictable behaviors, or perhaps it's just the way I'm communicating the plans?
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done