Last night I had a monthly meeting after work. I'm usually home by 8:30 at the latest. I decided to stop by my parents house after the meeting to visit for a few minutes. I debated not telling W I would be late, but then realized that would be very hypocritical. So I sent her a message-
Me: I'll be home in a bit. Making a pit stop.
W: Like at a bar?
Me: I wish!!!
W: Oooookkkaaayyy

The strung out "ok" is her way of expressing frustration. She was sleeping when I got home. This morning on the way to work we had a brief chat about it-
W: So did you have fun on your cryptic outing last night?
Me: What do you mean cryptic?
W: You know what I mean. It’s like you’re intentionally vague lately. If I did that to you you’d be pissed.
Me: Interesting. I wasn’t being intentionally anything.
W: Well what were you out doing?
Me: I stopped by my parents’ house.
W: Oh.

A little later I told her I had plans tonight (GAL!)-
Me: I’m going to go out after S goes to bed tonight.
W: Oh really. How about you ask, “Do you have anything going on tonight? I’m thinking about going out?”
Me: Ok… “So I’m thinking about going out tonight… do you have anything going on?”
W: Nope. That’s fine.

She doesn't seem to like me breaking way from my predictable behaviors, or perhaps it's just the way I'm communicating the plans?


M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done