My H and I have been together for 30 years, this is not the first time he has cheated on me. My H told me the same thing about the OW telling him he should work it out with me. He told me that OW told him to come home he ws gone for 2 months) H also told me he didn't love her and he wanted to work on us. He told her he was coming home because he was tired of supporting a house and 3 lifestyles that he had no part of (me and my S19, S17).

If there is OW involved and you want to work this out, you better make sure he is transparent with you. If I could afford to leave I would. I actually thought I could live this way and let him do what he wants to do, but it hurts too much to not have the love that I want from him. I don't think he will ever give up the OW and I don't want to live like this forever. So right now, it is just about the money.

M-47, H-46
M24, T29
S19, S17
OW since 2007
Fighting ever since
H left 8/12
H home 11/12
still seeing OW