And one more word of advice. Trust what people on these boards are telling you. You are in the middle of a storm and you can't see your situation clearly. Outside, unbiased perspective is what you need and would be wise to trust.
Sometimes what you read here can seem hurtful or mean. It isn't. It is just people with more clarity than you. And the truth hurts sometimes.
And don't go to that other website that told you how to spy on your wife. You need to get real and get honest - first, with yourself, second with your wife. Your goal is to build and regain her trust. Pantie tests don't build trust. If you've done anything else like that, DO NOT tell your wife.
And keep your kids out of it. They don't need to know about your or your wife's actions. Neither of you are being model citizens in the relationship, and tell your kids stuff about your wife just creates an ugly battlefield right across your kids hearts. Again, shut up and be cool.
