I think my wife is having a mid-life crisis.

[littleGTO]

Hi, Terry,
So sorry to hear your W moved out, but sometimes it is EXACTLY what they need to breathe, step back from the R, and have time & space to think and to just be.

My H moved out 3 weeks ago. It hurt then & it still hurts now, but I do know I'm in a better place than I was 3 weeks ago.

You are right in that now you can focus on YOU and your D. You didn't cause your W to leave and you can't control her actions now either. Stop thinking about "fixing" the M. Do your 180's, GAL and start thinking about yourself and what YOU want from your life (other than her, I mean).

This isn't going to be easy. In fact it will probably be the hardest thing you ever did. But, you need to do this for YOUR OWN salvation (and your D, too).

There are NO GUARANTEES about the ultimate outcomes of each of our M's. But, if you follow the DB guidelines you will find yourself in a much better place (at least that's the goal I am hanging onto).

Take care of you!