Andrew, I'm glad Labug was there for you. I was in NYC all day and just got back.
Sorry about this setback, but setbacks are part of the process. Remember this was an EA and those are the toughest to get through.
I agree with Labug's advice about sticking to your boundaries and about continuing your 180's. The IC might help but don't put all your hopes in it.
Women tend to be more romantic, e.g. I was also hoping for some Christmas magic last year--which didn't happen. Bring some small romantic gestures back into your repertoire. I know it must be so hard. I couldn't practice any of these things right after my H's affair bc I was so hurt and somehow felt he had to be the one trying to redeem himself...but it's not about being fair but doing whatever you can do to save your M (while keeping your sanity intact and respecting your values.) Not easy, but you've been doing it so well. So keep it up. I'm here for you! (((((())))))
