Sunny, Sleep on it...you know the old saying "when in doubt, do nothing". Whatever you decide to do will be fine...try not to worry too much about it.
Thanks Snodderly - I will but I have really done nothing for so long doesn't seem to make a difference either way so maybe you are right !!
quote=hrm134] Hey Sunny might I suggest not only sleeping on it, but praying about it. When in doubt ask God to lead you! [/quote]
I will pray I know I am tired of being afraid to try anything
She made plans to go out with her girlfriend on Friday night - I picked up the phone in the middle of the conversation to make a call of my own just to hear her friend say " is he ever going to leave" she said - "I don't know" When she got off the phone - she asked if I had plans I said "what is the date" to try and remind her - she said it's the 30th so she was aware. Her parents are here so I said well your parents are here they can watch him - she said yes I asked them
So this would have set me off so bad in Sept but to be honest I wasn't happy but I got over it fast.
We went out to dinner with her parents and my son tonight. One change I see in her is she is giggling and laughing at me and things I say - this is huge - I know no expectations but she is looking at me from across the table and room and smiling - but then she makes plans for Friday
I am gonna send flowers to her -- I really want to it's our 10th anniversary - we are still married and we are having a great time putting in this new kitchen - what the hell do I have to lose at this point - but I am still sleeping on it LOL
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
When in doubt ask God to lead you! 
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