And if HH is not your thing, go out and do something with friends, on your own. She doesn't have to know what it is. Maybe you could set up a schedule, W you go out Tues and I go on Th.
You're sounding a little like the long-suffering husband sitting home with the baby. Change that up, go out, have a good time, stay out past 10:30. I know you said you always went to bed at a certain time and maybe that's what's driving her crazy-maybe she feels like you've turned into an old married couple. You two are just entering the prime of your lives, don't waste it.
YES ^^^
No offense, but your M sounds like it lacks excitement and has for a while. I have been there, so I get it. This very well could be the root cause of what your W is going through, her confusion.
I highly suggest that you start jazzing things up. Begin with YOU, by doing some GAL. I've read about 6 pages of your thread, and the most GAL that I've read about you doing is taking up reading again and going to get a massage... and the place was closed! What do you like to do that you haven't done in a while? What have you never done that you have always wanted to do? Loosen your tie a little and have some fun. Your W will notice. She will become curious. And then, when the time is right, you can ask her to join you... to have a little fun WITH you.
Bug is right, with your W or without her, life is too short to live on such a short leash.
You're right. I haven't pushed GAL activities. When W is willing to spend time with me, I feel like I have to be around her, even if it's just watching TV together. Could this be seen as a negative? Maybe if W is bored, I'm playing right into her expectations... we once again just sit on the couch and watch TV like we always did. Maybe I need to let go of this "non-quality time" and just leave the house sometimes. She can watch TV on her own?
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
