Denver, first I'd like to say thanks for jumping in my thread. I've read so many of your posts here and really appreciate your thoughts on my sitch!

Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
Why are you afraid of confronting your W about OM?


This is a great question.

I think I'm afraid to bring it up with the limited proof. She acts suspicious: cell phone behavior, web history shows and interest in Facebook privacy settings, a few long calls to possible OM. (One call was immediately after dropping the bomb and leaving the house!) I did find a picture in her email, but it was discovered via snooping. I don't want to destroy her trust.

She works with OM, so there aren't very many calls on her cell phone. They both have iPhones which use the iMessage app, thus avoiding text messaging showing on the phone bill.

I'm also afraid that it would rock the boat too much. Right now she's still open to spending time and talking with me. I'm afraid of losing that too.


M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done