A couple quick updates on sitch/ my progress. Last night wife looked stressed and I could tell something was up so I asked if everything was ok. She said bad day at work so I asked if she wanted to talk. She had bad day at work because she had to train a bunch of new people and her boss (who is actually a good friend of mine) was screwing her over on a shift later this week. She started off slowly and I think was surprised that I was really listening and sympathizing with her. She talked for 10 minutes about it and I never gave an opinion. It felt so strange but she seemed to enjoy it. Funny part is I understood why my buddy was doing what he was but I 100% took my wife's side. She sent me text this AM regarding her shift situation (it all worked out) and I replied back with more support for her. Complete 180 from my old behavior and not natural but hopefully becomes my normal behavior.
I also had extremely busy day yesterday with work and kids. Had to leave work early (@3) to run kids all over town and we didn't get home until after 9:30 which is past their bed times. Having 4 & 7 year old going that long would have old me at my wits end but I remembered my new 180's and I stayed calm and actually enjoyed most of it (not sure I'll ever be able to enjoy traffic). W saw us around 8:30 and even said she was surprised I was still in good mood and not complaining. Said she expected me to be handing kids to her. I owe that 180 to AS. Thanks!
With all that I still feel nervous because we haven't discussed us at all and it's hard not saying anything with D papers filed. Through this I've realized I need reassurance which I never really knew about myself. Before this I was very confident but now I'm questioning everything. We have our initial Friend of the Court appointment on 12/11 and we haven't discussed anything. Have no idea how that will go. This is so weird, feel like making progress but for all I know she's just going through motions to not fight and the needle hasn't moved at all. I guess I just need to trust the 180's and know in the end, no matter what happens, I'll be a better person.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
