Is it too late to DB?

[caigy72]

D9 turned the big 10 yesterday, she had a great time...I invited her BFF over for cake and icecream (shes not seen her for awhile) so she was very excited, also a couple of friends of H and I came over too then H came over and he was soooooooo uncomfortable and couldn't wait to get out of here. Later my friend said to me "he looks like he's aged 10 years in 6 months and I cant believe he's giving all this up for her...he's lost his mind" she also knows the OW and how horrible a human being she is.

So last night I got a text from an old friend of H and I...a little history of ours... H was in the U.S Navy stationed in the U.K when we met, I was 18 he was 20, within 3 months of dating we moved in together, a guy he was in the Navy with also lived with us...we became instant friends staying up late playing scrabble, talking etc... nothing ever happened sexually or otherwise besides being friends. I remeber distancing abit from our friend because I could tell H was uncomfortable with it or abit jealous. Anyway our friend came back to the states in June 1991 and H and I got married the following month.

Our friend lives in another state about 8 hours drive from us but we'd talk on the phone maybe a few times a year, but 9 times out of 10 it was me he called not H and H sarcasticly commented on this over the years. Our friend travels quite a bit so whenever he's in town the 3 of us get together, we last saw him in January right after I had found out about OW#1 Afew weeks later I told our friend what was going on, since then he calls now and then to see how I am etc.

So he texts last night, light convo ...how are you? how are the kids and on and on, then he gets serious and says he could nevr tell me how he felt before because of h but he never said what he felt, he wants to drive 8 hours to come "hang out" with me for the weekend says he just wants to spoil me for awhile he even said that he could very easily be talked into ML to me...I was speechless and I admit blushing I told him that I was still married and if I did that I'd be guilty of the very thing I'm accusing H of! I will not lie it was an ego boost for sure as he is good looking guy, but in my mind he was just my friend.

Thoughts are needed, thanks