Looking for opinions here because I'm torn on what to do.
W and I booked a Disney cruise with kids for mid Feb. Booked it 2 weeks before she filed which still boggles my mind but I digress. Airfare is paid for and the remaining balance is due on the cruise this Monday at midnight. 3 weeks ago when I was going through my anger phase W and I talked and no way either of us would go alone with kids and couldn't see going together but I was in a bad place then and we weren't thinking (or talking) clearly. Last 10 days or so we've been getting along really well but no talk about R. Good small talk, she's sending random texts, doing things together, and she's back in bed sleeping. Kids know about trip and keep bringing up how much fun it will be and we haven't said anything to them (remember they don't know anything yet). I usually just smile when they bring it up. Wife has balance due date on her calendar so I know she remembers money is due in a couple days.
So my dilemma, do I bring it up to her, let her bring it up, or just ignore it and continue to act 'as if' I've moved on and not thinking about trip. The money isn't a real concern and I could add vacation protection to get refund if needed. My hope is that we could be in piecing phase by then but we all know how these things go and I'm trying to keep expectations in check. Mind reading alert: I'm afraid if I bring it up she'll say cancel because I'm not sure she's too point of thinking about a future. Even if she was she might still stay cancel because she wouldn't want to act like it because she can be bullheaded and it might make her look 'weak'. I'd hate to cancel and get to Feb and not go if we continue to progress because that would hurt kids and I honestly think it would be fun for everyone. Right now I'm leaning towards paying it on Monday whether she brings it up or not and I won't mention it if she doesn't say anything. If DB works it would be nice surprise and if it doesn't it's just less money she gets later. Thoughts?
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