Nothing new to report, despite the developments a few days ago nothing has changed. W has not reached out in any way since then, and I'm still dim with her. We've traded a few kid-related texts and that's it.
On the drive to work this morning I was thinking about the distance/ pursuit dynamic and how it has never applied to my sitch at all. Initially when W distanced I pursued and she distanced further. After finding DB I held my ground instead of pursuing and eventually distanced myself from her. She has never once pursued though.
Originally Posted By: subguy
She's rewriting history to fit her mood. It's a good 180 to have, I will make it one of mine as well. Positive not negative.
You're right of course. She's forgetting the good and focusing on the bad. So all the emotional comments I made to her (I would literally get choked up) while watching the kids perform are forgotten for now, but the venting/ complaining is remembered with perfect clarity. I'm not saying I don't take her comments seriously, I do. I've done a 180 on that and don't ever complain to her now about anything. But I'm not going to beat myself up over it because my positive reactions to the events trumped the venting by a long shot, and some day hopefully the fog will clear and she'll remember that.
