Thank you of your posts and your clarity of thought. LITB thank you of reputing the time into posting the paragraph on boundaries. I really appreciate it.
I do struggle with boundaries still. I know that as a fact.
I spoke briefly with H. I told him I am uncomfortable with it, and before I could finish he jumped in and said 'i know i know thats why I didn't ask again, she might stay with another relative anyway'.
I then continued and said I am uncomfortable with it because of the way she treated me the last time I saw her. I know she is loyal to you and she was reacting to things that you told her when you were angry and hurt, yet I cannot have her here without that treatment being rectified. Also, I am not going to let the house be used a hotel.
Then I think I said a bit too much (the whole conversation was like 4 minutes), because I said that while I don't care anymore, it did really hurt because she was my family too. I told him it was hard in the past to feel like I had to justify my feelings and that it seemed like I wasn't good enough. Whether you meant it or not, they were not acknowledged. He went dead silent. And then he said he didn't mean it like that.
I left it at that, said I have to go.
Back to normal programming.
And I have also decided that if he ever does ask to use the house again for his friends I am going to say no. Whats he going to do?Get a girlfriend? D me? We are already there anyway.
Busting.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
