Only you know the answer to that. But do consider whether your choice would be helpful or harmful to your marriage, and ultimately your own psyche. You will want to look back on this and be PROUD of your behaviors, you will want your kids to be PROUD of your behaviors. And would it be fair to another person to get them involved in what is currently a rather messy sitch?
You and your kids see things differently because you and they are NOT going through MLC. MLCers have a WARPED view, they CANNOT see things other than what their befuddled brains tell them they see. (This is true for most of us. For instance, she can't convince YOU that HER way is right. Can she? She sees the "emperors new clothes" right now and CANNOT see anything different.)
I hope you can get some answers from some of the men on this board, I am sure they will connect better with you than I can. But keep posting, keep reading. And WAIT before making any questionable decisions. Extreme pain and duress are NOT the times to make permanent, or hard-to-take-back, actions.
Peace to you.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
