Thanks, everyone. It is a very difficult issue on so many levels. My XW is such a control freak. My new wife is a very skilled RN who has worked with a ton of patients with psych issues. Her skill and resolve are not the issues. It's XW who would insert herself into every decision, and who D20 identifies with much like the Stockholm Syndrome. Both fo my daughters desperately want favor and approval from their mother, but each time they approach her, it's like trying to "buy milk at a hardware store".
My new wife has seen my XWs "Win at Any Cost" approach to every issue. Case in point: even though XW moved in with her companion, into a 2.5 million dollar home, and the divorce decree clearly states cohabitation causes alimony to cease, I am now 6K into a court case trying to make this happen, EVEN THOUGH IT'S IN BLACK AND WHITE AND I'M TOTALLY IN THE RIGHT WITH THE ALIMONY. She came back asked for $2400 until she can rent her old house, and I need to entertain all of this. IT'S NEVER LINEAR WITH XW.
So you can see, my wife feels like "It's always the world according to XW". What XW wants, she ALWAYS seems to get.
XW doesn't want D20, that's what she gets. The resentment on the part of my new wife if very justified.
