I don't contact stbx except for very occasional kid or finance emergencies.
I see him fairly rarely now as he has stopped dropping in when he brings the kids home from school.
This has been for about 3 weeks now - with the exception of a mediation meeting last week (where I did break down in tears about my financial state).
I really feel much more detached from stbx these days and feel better about being on my own.
Then this afternoon, he drops S14 off and comes into the house. I am polite but make myself scarce.
H is also polite and stays for a bit to help S14 with homework. He leaves and says goodbye to me.
Then S14 tells me that, on the way home from school, his father insisted on showing him where he lives now (not far away from our house).
S14 said he didn't want to see and accused H of forcing him, but H said "bad luck' and drove him to OW's apartment. He stopped outside for a minute but S14 refused to look. S14 also told h that he would never go inside OW's house and that h could not make him.
(S14 has previously told H that he will not ride in OW's convertible that H often drives around in, and nor does he want to meet her when H takes him out anywhere.)
S14 has his big end-of-year exams starting tomorrow and H knows this.
Why would he do this - at all? and more specifically right now when it was so upsetting for S14?
I suppose it is all part of his plan to make us realise that he is serious and will never be coming back to us.
It seems a bit odd to force one's child to see the house where one is shacked up with one's mistress though, doesn't it?
My thought was that he might have been trying to bait me as I have been detaching more successfully.
If this is the case, I'd like to hear some views, because it shows me that I have been accomplishing my goals of NC and detachment in ways that even stbx can notice.
