CV, just so you know, when I said I can't help you, it is because... as AJ put it regarding your request that your H remind you of his positives... it's not my place.
If your H told you about the positive things he'd done for you, be honest here... you would probably find the negatives in what he THOUGHT were positives. He's learned not to do that, because that's possibly your current response, so he won't offer anything.
And besides, it's not his job. You... will have to dig for what ever positives there were in your M. That... is the work... and it's not easy, especially because you are too close to it all and very frustrated.
I can not tell you what to do and as I've observed, many, many suggestions... simply as POSSIBLE things you could try... you generally give reasons why you can not or will not. So at this point, there's possibly no suggestion anyone can give you that you are prepared to follow through on. Again... you... figuring out what to do... is the work... and it's hard...
SBT is Solutions oriented Brief Therapy. ie. It has nothing to do with the past, everything to do with clarifying the problem. Breaking it down as necessary to manageable chunks that can have actions applied that may or may not create positive change.
And then...
Do...
Observe...
Adjust (based on results, which generally we suggest you need at least two weeks of action to see if there is any real, consistent, change)...
and then...
Repeat...
You are stuck because you discount everything (and I'm generalizing here, no harm intended) that is offered to you or that you think of.
Stop discounting before you even try.
Just do... something... anything... even if you think it will fail... even if you think it is rediculous or crazy...
If you can not think of things that might work and create positive change, then at least do something... consistently for at least a two week period... to see if it will validate your belief that it will fail. You may be surprised that a lot of things you think won't work, DO create change.
And in all fairness, stuck is stuck. So you want change, no matter whether positive OR negative, because it puts the sitch into a different context and may help you see clearer or at least help you see how you can move forward.
That is the work. It's pretty simple and very logical, even if it seems futile. SBT changes things. And that's what you need.
