Do you all think I should be more forthcoming in the details of my plans?
Yes, if she asks. But don't contact her when you are out. Unless, of course, you have told her that you will be home by a certain time (which I suggest that you don't) and you are going to be later.
You: "I'm going out" or "I have plans"
W: "where are you going?"
You: "This place."
If your W continues to press for information, it means that she is curious about what you are doing. That is good. Not bad. Don't discourage it.
And by not answering and being too vague, you are being rude and setting bad precedent. You don't like it when she does this to you, so don't do it to her.
BUT, don't give out more info than you need to. I KNOW. Tough balancing act.
Create intrigue and mystery by doing stuff that you wouldn't normally do... not by being vague.
For example, and this is a bit drastic, but I took three trips out of state to visit friends that my W did not know. Now, I was in the Last Resort Technique when I did this, but it was stuff that I wouldn't have done normally. W found out about each of the trips, and each time it scared her (came out as her being p!ssed). It scared her because she began to worry that i was changing. Me changing equated to her possibly losing my interest.
Being vague is better left for when/if you are in the Last Resort Technique and not having regular communication. Doing something different is good at all times.
Make sense?
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
