Hey I'm up for a trip to Italy! Will I need more than $37? Cause that's all I've got....
Portia,
the whole thing sounds exhausting. You must have been so drained. At least its behind you now.
I agree with Snodderly and kml regarding going dark. And I understand the whole "carrying the phone like its your baby" thing - I do that when H goes to the casino (which he just left for AGAIN btw). But if you tell him to not contact you you are giving his communications "power". Best to keep that power for yourself. Anyway, if it was me, I'd kind of hope my SO would call DESPITE being told not too - and I'd STILL carry the baby/phone lol. But maybe that's just me!
Like kml says, he can't miss you until you're gone, so GO. And 4 months isn't very long in the MLC scheme of things. I've seen estimates of 2 - 7 years, with 5 held out as average. You certainly can't be miserable for another 4 years or so... can you? And the MLC is going to do what the MLC is going to do, regardless of YOUR mood. So, c'mon get happy! (Partridge Family reference, showing my age, pardon me )
When it gets to be too much, come here and vent. Or kick the stuffing out of your pillows. Scream in the car (windows up is best for this). Put on sad songs and cry. Put on a$$ kicking songs (Pink "So What", Carrie Underwood "The Next Time He Cheats") and sing along - LOUDLY! (Might wanna close the windows for that one too...)
You've been blindsided and have a right to hurt. Don't wallow in it, but don't ignore it either - find a balance.
Sending you happy thoughts
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
At least its behind you now.
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