Piecing - Round 1

[Denver_2010]

Denver...
Co-parenting is one of the toughest things EVER

I want Cori to co-parent with me but I don't want him to too

like

I want him to help dscipline but NOBODY yells at my babies

it's like a no win situation

I have had to learn to give up a lot of control....very hard for me

there are lots of resources out there for the defiant child

one really great class is called Love and Logic...they have some really great stuff. Sometimes it gets a little lovey for this mom but it truly does work (watched it happened with my own eyes)

HA! You sound like my W. She wants me to co-parent... but then doesn't.

You're right, co-parenting is one of the most difficult things that I've tried to do. I think that it is especially difficult doing it as a step parent. My W wants me to be involved with SS... his school, his discipline, the fun stuff... but won't consider the tougher approach that I believe is appropriate at times. The bottom line is that he is her son, not mine. At times, it feels like it isn't fair and causes me to feel like throwing my hands up and giving up on the idea.... let her deal with it.

I have definitely heard of Love and Logic. I believe that my mother in law suggested to my W for SS. I think that's where she gets the touchy feely approach to discipline ... I just grew up differently. Sometimes it is hard to accept that my way isn't the only way.

Thanks for the advice Fig.

Denver