Today I asked a mutual friend of my W and I to write a letter saying that I am a good father. My divorce attorney wants to have testimonials just in case things go really South.
The friend was really upset that it would some how put her in the middle of the divorce. She said that my wife is her best friend (though my wife has never said that about her) and she didn't want to betray her. I told her that she wasn't betraying her and that she could write a letter telling what a great mother my wife is.
She said that she really resents being put in the middle of us. That it is really hard knowing what to do.
I felt like saying, "I'm sorry my divorce is making your life so difficult!"
I told my wife that my lawyer requested letters of testimony regarding my fathering skills and demeanor. And She got pissed. Obviously afraid that I was trying to counter sue for custody - or something. I'm afraid I don't quite understand the terms.
I simply told her that I think she is a good mother and that my priority is my family. And that means making sure my daughters have a mother and a father in their lives, who actively participate and are present. I explained that the lawyers told me to get these letters because I will be presented to the judge at some point they want to show me in the best light. But that I won't allow the lawyers to play tricks on her or try to pull the family apart.
