Irma, I am always nice, even when I tell people what they don't want to hear. I tell people what I think is best without any mean intentions. Anyway, its everyone's life to do with as they wish. Do I agree with things? Nope, but everyone has to do what they think is right. I am concerned with many on here, especially those who have been at this a long time. I don't think a lot of people let their faith drive them, I think its a lot of co-dependency, and that's scary. Renee, if you are thinking of going back to standing after all the things that have happened, I certainly think you need to talk to someone, in fact, I think its best for you to stay away from relationships for awhile. I don't mean this in a mean way, but I think you need to clear your thinking and take a look at some things.