So many people don't understand the DB path. Friends don't want to see you hurting and in their mind, the easy path is the way to resolve your pain as quickly as possible.
I'd explain to them what you're trying to do and that you'd like their support. If they can't comply, you really are best to stop talking about your situation with them.
I've personally removed one person from any talks about my relationship. Her "advise" was always contrary to my plans and caused me to second guess myself. By no longer talking to her I remove some of those doubts.
^^^This.
I have two people I confided in. One is a woman at work who I knew I could trust to keep it to herself. Just being able to talk to someone helped me a bunch. But as time went on, it became apparent that her religious beliefs got in the way of her understanding how I could show compassion for a wife who “Just needs to start following Gods word”. I don’t believe hitting wife over the head with the bible will bring her back, so this friend has been removed from sitch talk.
The other is a long time male friend who truly “gets it”. He understands perfectly what I’m trying to do, and supports me %100. Even comes up with helpful advice. Every DB’er needs one of these friends.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
