W filed, I think we can make it work - what to do?

[someguy1233]

It's funny but I honestly don't think I can talk with anyone outside these forums about my situation anymore because I just get frustrated. My friends think they have my best interests in mind by telling me to just leave, trying to tell me kids will eventually be fine with D, saying "let's go to Vegas", blah, blah blah. None of them really knows what it's like and can't understand why I would want to ever reconcile or make myself better because of what she's doing. They just don't get it. One of my best friends is even trying to set me up on a date (with a very attractive woman that's apparently interested in me) and doesn't understand how I'm not interested in any of that right now. Even my strong Christian friends (deacons and pastors) seem to preface every comment about marriage with something to the affect of 'protect yourself...' or tell me how W is really off God's path and God needs to bring her back. Of course I know those things and it gets frustrating so I've pretty much stopped talking with most people about sitch. The only place I really feel there is hope (for me or M) where people understand what it's like are these forums.

So many people don't understand the DB path. Friends don't want to see you hurting and in their mind, the easy path is the way to resolve your pain as quickly as possible.

I'd explain to them what you're trying to do and that you'd like their support. If they can't comply, you really are best to stop talking about your situation with them.

I've personally removed one person from any talks about my relationship. Her "advise" was always contrary to my plans and caused me to second guess myself. By no longer talking to her I remove some of those doubts.