hey hi- just blipping in to say hi. I see in your last above post that you say both that you need to start doing things towards the future - and should you stick with "what works".
i'm thinking if you have identified your dbing or whatever you're doing as "working" - why you'd change it? I'm not saying don't think over the future - i do allll the time. the more i do- the less i "fear" it. (for want of a better way to put it all). ' i do "fear" a bit livng alone and letting go of my life's plan & "vision" of my future as i've known it for past 35 years - . romantic me - crazy me! apparently too.
oh well huh? anyway- i'd say thinking about the future in the sense of what you'd like, what's missing and would could be better (about a possible mate- h and you) is what we're supposed to be doing - no?
i'd also think the things you do for you- like find a job if you see yourself as needing to get the heck out of the house (like me) - make a new circle of friends - meet people & be around them - keep occupied so you don't think- a job would provide a day load of "structure" and i think i lack that at home. toooo big of a job- - - - houses & yards & millions of "chores" - a job might refine it all and make it more "bite size chunks" - rather than contempleting IT ALL.
extra savings are never a bad thing- ALSO - one gets alot more positive feedback at a job than at home when you accomplish something- at home it's just more of the same and allllll "your job".
one tiny step forward at a time is still a step forward. Grasshopper- "the journey of a thousand miles beings with the first step". sort of thing.
anyway- hope your day is good. i was pretty whiney last nite- we head to nj in a couple days- always hate packing and leaving & changing life & place.
mess & a muddle - i can't begin to figure it out and no where near knowing "what's the right thing". for me, us, h or whatever.
when i read db and about how "there's nothing we can do to make it begtter - but a whole lot we can do to make it worse" - and i try and stfu and just wait for tomorrow. maybe somethign -
i don't know anything this morni g-
so hi and hope your day is good and i'm gone ! packing, tidying, etc
