I definitely don't expect an overnight turnaround from her, and if she had one I don't think I would accept her back into the home that quickly. There's a lot we need to work on first. You may recall from my old thread that there was a Retrouvaille here in October, but W had just moved out and I didn't feel the timing was good. There's another in January and I think the timing for that one is perfect. So I see that as the next step. I'm going to wait about a week before talking to her about it on the off chance that she does decide to approach me about the R talk she mentioned. And if she doesn't approach me, then I'll approach her about Retro and describe it to her as a means to improve our communications with each other. I'm not going to present it to her as an effort to save the M. I don't want to put pressure and expectations on her about the experience.
I think retrouv would be awesome and I agree on the way to explain it. Communication is really the guts of the weekend.
We had one couple in our group that was only weeks from finalizing their divorce. They went just to make sure it was what they really wanted (they weren't even sure they were both going to show up when they got there lol). It was pretty awesome to see them turn around and re-commit to each other in the matter of a day or two.
Of course, my W only went to keep the peace and didn't really embrace the program, so we're still in limbo-land. That said, she still does go to the CORE meetings if I want to go and she does say that there was a lot of useful things in it, especially the communication part.
