Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[labug]

Filing for D is very different from dropping the rope as I understand it. Dropping the rope is you stop the tug-of-war, the resistance is gone.

It's good that you recognize what you did in the past and changed those things. Were you actively involved in day-to-day kid life when the kids were younger? ie making dr appts, staying home when they were sick, shopping, cooking, knowing who needed new shoes and underwear?

If I were to interpret her comment I would say that there are varying degrees of "being there" for kids. Maybe if she was going to the meet and greet, she felt she would be more comfortable if you weren't there.

No matter, it will be very difficult for her to acknowledge the improved AS, as it's all so new. All she has to base things on is your past performance. Not fair, maybe but that's the reality.

I think too, that you're looking to her for your next step. You were almost out but then you found out she might not be done so now you're back in. Believe me, I understand this and have been there, still am on some days.

Keep moving on your path, she'll either decide to follow and catch up or not.

Dating?

Are you done with this R?