Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

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Why do you think your W says that you still put yourself first?

I know you've made changes but you've been at the changing for less than 6 months and were married for 20, together 25.

Her wounds probably run deep, as with my H. He said many of the same things your W said at BD. I could pick all that apart with logic but the fact remains that he is done. He might have long, dark nights of the soul but he remains steadfast. He was deeply hurt by things that happened in the marriage and doesn't want to revisit that.

You said you almost dropped the rope and then didn't because of what she said. Explain that a bit more. I think you have dropped the rope and that's a good thing.