AS - Just finished your entire story (I sure hope my work isn't tracking my internet usage these last couple weeks) and I have to say you are a true inspiration. I hope I can stay as calm and disciplined as you do. I do think of things you and other DB'ers have told me when I interact with W which has been helping my sitch.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
So of course my natural reaction is I need to point out to W that this is absolutely untrue. I need to sit down with her, remind her of all of the above and she will quickly see the error of her ways and all will be good again. Except it won't. I have to remind myself that she's still in the fog, she's still embracing her rewritten history, and only she can find her way out of the fog. So, I have to stay detached, and I have to keep my mouth shut while she spins this yarn to my own family. Takes a lot of discipline to stand by silently while someone wrecks your reputation as a parent and accuses you of being selfish, but it's what I've got to do.
I completely know how you feel with this one. I've given up trying to convince my wife her rewritten history is BS. It's tough but because of this site I understand why and what she is doing and it has made it easier to detach. I know the truth and I keep telling myself deep down she does to and someday she'll figure it out again. Gotta keep hope right? My W went so far as to link up with new friends that have never met me or kids to discuss our M with because her old friends know she went off the reserve. Thankfully she's slowly starting to reconnect with her old friends over the last few days.
Again AS I admire you patience and always look forward to reading your wisdom on the boards. Stay strong
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