Last night I remembered a valuable tool for dealing with anxiety. I wish I could remember who posted it, but someone once said that anxiety is based on fear. The best way to deal with it is to address the fear. I tried it last night as I was laying in bed struggling to sleep.
Why was I anxious? 1. I was afraid W would come home and want to talk about our relationship. 2. I was afraid W would say she wants a divorce.
What was the reality of these fears? 1. I can tell her I'm tired and don't want to talk. 2. No matter what she says or does, I will be ok. Life will go on.
I fell asleep within minutes of thinking these rational thoughts rather than the spiral of "what-ifs." What a valuable tool!
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
