"Even if I am responsible for losing that "emotional connection", is it a reason to DIVORCE?

The "emotional connection" isn't the reason why she's divorcing you. It's because you were...""distant, selfish and perhaps even neglected her."

Would you want to stay with a woman who was (in your own words) distant, selfish, and neglectful?

I wanted to highlight this from Bond's post as I have similar thoughts.

I'll add that it would be very unusual if your W never talked to you about the problems she was having with the marriage. Women communicate their feelings, even to people who don't want to hear them. We are communicators, relaters, connection seekers.

Are you sure you might have brushed it off as not important?

Think really hard.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss