Hi Folks, just some more info, I’ve known for over 10 years now that my dad died 21 years to the very day that Liz’s favourite grandmother died. About 8 months ago I discovered that I was born on her (this grandmothers) birthday!! Yet Liz or her mother never mentioned it to me! I find that very strange because Liz’s mum would never forget her own mother’s birthday would she now? I find the above almost unbelieveable!
Delboy, I posted to Smurf Man (Simon) last evening and got a response. He's doing well. His son is still w/his xw and his daughter has fully grown up and he's enjoying being on his own. He just returned from a trip to Singapore and is thinking of moving there...but hasn't made a final decision on that as of yet.
He sent his regards to you.
BTW, he still pops in periodically to read, but doesn't post.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks for that Snodderly, I remember about 4 years ago he was having a few problems with is daughter, which perhaps now have been sorted? I went thru a very bad patch with my youngest from about May 05 till about April 07. And every thing seemed O K until a few weeks ago. Suffice to say with my health condition i've started to get a short fuse. And she sometimes does her best to wind me up. So now she knows she's on her last warning, and she would have to go and live elsewhere if she breaks my boundaries again.
Good news is she's going for counselling this coming week. She like me as been the most affected with her mums behaviour/new life. Its also happend that most of her (local friends) can't have contact with her. Because me and Dawn know something thats been going on over at thier place. But they blame Dawn for it, but I know it's nothing to do with Dawn other than her being a shoulder to cry on, so more rejection for Dawn.
Hi Delboy! Simon's daughter has turned into a beautiful young lady and the "teen" problems have definitely sorted themselves out. He said that he's not heard from his ex-wife and son in 6 years. I was very sad to read that his son has not reached out to him.
I hope that you can find someone who can come up with a medication that will help you. It's no picnic when you have health issues such as yours.
I'm glad to read here that your daughter is going to counseling. It may help her w/sorting out things that have troubled her since her mom left. It's too bad about the friends, etc. I hope that all of this gets sorted out and soon.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks, Snodderly, You see, I had some very, very, very, deep hurts from when I was 3-4 years old. And my mum can remember everything that I said and did, and everything that my dad said and did ( I’ve not long found out about this event, its been total blocked out of my mind, and me, who’s probably got one of the best memories on the planet!) I think a part of me died on this day. “The day that the goal post’s moved forever”. It took another 41 years before it all came to the surface. That’s was when Liz left. This is why I like all the heartbreak, emotional and physical abandonment songs!
Love Delboy
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Song: “Baby Come Back” One hit wonder’s, over here in the UK, 1976. An absolute killer! Where’s Tad?
Spending all my nights - All my money going out on the town Doing anything just to get you off of my mind But when the morning comes - I'm right back where I started again And trying to forget you is just a waste of time
Baby come back, any kind of fool could see There was something in everything about you Baby come back, you can blame it all on me I was wrong, and I just can't live without you
All day long, wearing a mask of false bravado Trying to keep up the smile that hides a tear But as the sun goes down - I get that empty feeling again How I wish to God that you were here
Baby come back, any kind of fool could see There was something in everything about you Baby come back, you can blame it all on me I was wrong, and I just can't live without you
Now that I put it altogether Give me the chance to make you see Have you used up all the love in your heart? Nothing left for me? Ain't there nothing left for me?
Baby come back, any kind of fool could see There was something in everything about you Baby come back, listen baby, you can blame it all on me I was wrong, and I just can't live without you
Another one from 1976: by “Hall & Oates”, all of my favourite songs give me goose bumps and make the hair on the back of my neck stand up! Now where is that Tad fella?
Love Delboy
"She's Gone” Everybody's high on consolation Everybody's trying to tell me What is right for me, yeah I need a drink and a quick decision Now it's up to me, ooooh what will be
She's gone, she's gone Oh, why Oh, why I better learn how to face it She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why Oh, why I'd pay the devil to replace her She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why What went wrong
Get up in the morning, look in the mirror One less tooth brush hanging in the stand My face ain't looking any younger Now why I can see Love's taken a toll on me
She's gone, she's gone Oh, why Oh, why I better learn how to face it She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why Oh, why I'd pay the devil to replace her She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why What went wrong
Think I'll spend eternity in the city Let the carbon and monoxide choke my thoughts away And pretty bodies help dissolve the memories There can never be what she once was to me
She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why Oh, why I better learn how to face it She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why Oh, why I'd pay the devil to replace her She's gone, and she's gone Oh, why What went wrong
She's gone, Oh, why I better learn how to face it She's gone, she’s gone Oh, she’s gone Oh, why I'd pay the devil to replace her She's gone, Oh, why
Hi good folks, I remember someone posting on here, about missing his ex W, saying the hardest part to come to terms with, was with what he thought/believed he had had, and not what relationship he had actually had, with hindsight of course.
You see ever since I first fell in love with Liz (late July early Aug 76). I soon began to feel that she would always be there for me. And that we would only get separated by death and that being in old age.
I have made tremendous improvements within myself over these past years. But still lots of memories have come back to me, which then I look back on, they don’t usually start about Liz but she and what has happened in my life since these events sometime does.
Most of my life I’ve worked outside, So I visit lots of places that I’ve got loads of memories of. For instance up until 6 ½ years ago I had hardly ever been thru the village BH. And then I found myself going to BH nearly weekly. And the same thoughts/memories kept coming back from mainly 1976 and the people who were with me/in my life at the time. So when I was actually working for customers at this place, I would look over the fences and see the fields me and Ifor had harvested. He had lost his driving licence for the second time (in 76), so I had to drive the tractor and trailer on the roads a long way cos this farm we were at, is a fair distance from Ifor’s farm. Also the next village down the road from BH is B. And I can remember driving a digger to an address just outside the village late 75 early 76. And all the people and happenings (from the time) nearly always came flooding back.
So perhaps what I miss about Liz the most is maybe what I thought I had, and also missing that somebody who would always be there for me type of thing.
Do any of you feel kinda like the same? These memories of what I was doing in my life back then and how I felt at the time are still strong.
Love Delboy
P.S. There was standing room only at the large church for Ifor’s funeral (Oct 03) and at the refreshments/ wake at the town hall there was over 300 people in attendance. I went to the church service but I couldn’t face going to the town hall because I had just found out about Nic (11 days earlier). Ifor was some character, in 1976 I said what do you fancy for the Grand National, he said ‘Rag Trade’, I said “put me a fiver (£5) £2.50 each way, on would you”, “yes” he said, I gave him the money but he didn’t put my bet on, but he did pay me out about £50. And he said “I didn’t need to put your bet on because I put a hugh amount of money on him at antepost.” price (probably at 33-1).
For the record, Rag Trade only just managed to beat the greatest/best racehorse (steeple chaser) of all time ‘RED RUM’. This is the toughest horserace in the world, Rummy won it in 73,74 and 77. You can rest assured that no horse will ever beat his record! (I’m more than willing to stake my life on it). My counsellor, (now ex) lives right by the late trainer’s son’s new yard, who in his own right won the national with Ballabriggs (2011). One of my (former) customer’s grandson is the yards blacksmith. See how my mind works it tries to link everything together!!!!!
Hi Folk's, just to say i've nearly finished copying/editing Liz's 1998 diary, i'm up to 19th Dec 98. I've just taken a break, just put the toaster on, the radio comes on as well and guess what they just started to play? Can you guess? The Stylistics, 'I can't give you anything but my love'! The # hit that we (Liz and Del) took our first dance to. Mon 25th August 1975!
Delboy, How are you doing these days? I know you have a health concern and was wondering if you've been able to get an relief from the pain, etc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
