TJP, It's time to seek the advice of a lawyer and get something in place so that he's providing for you and your children. I'm not surprised he stopped the direct deposit. He is a master of manipulation and control.
I agree w/KML, be very careful in what you provide to him in writing when it comes to an expense spreadsheet because your bills will fluctuate periodically. What he is doing is very, very wrong and it's to make you beg.
You may not have separation agreements in your state, but I'm sure there is some kind of law that protects family members when it comes to parents not providing income and holding family members hostage because they want to prove a point.
Please contact your lawyer about this situation asap. It will get worse before it gets better.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
