I am pretty sure I was not one of the people that said you jumped into bed too fast with him. It's always about context and what YOU want. None of us are you or your H. What YOU want and what your H wants is what matters and what you should be acting on.
CV, can you tell me if there is anything that you have done in the past, that you felt worked for you and appeared to have a positive affect with your H and his actions, behaviours, language?
