Great posts, SS! Don't hesitate to post here. So much of our sitch's are alike, it's nice to have someone else's words expressing my thoughts.
AJ, I would agree with what SS said, that being more specific would help. Not in the high-level zen lingo that you and KD speak. I've had some questions that I thought were very specific but couldn't tie down a response to.
SS, I have certainly read DB, but because I'm technically sort of the WAS, it's hard to apply it. I still have my H. He hasn't gone anywhere (at this point.) I don't have a list of complaints from him that I could do 180's on. He would be perfectly happy to step right back into what we used to have. I refuse. It's like you said -- it's always been all about "him." There was no "us." I'm just not interested in that life anymore. The perspective I changed is something I intend to keep.
Originally Posted By: Soul.Searching
Should I really not expect anything at all In a partner?
Excellent question! When you feel like you're not getting anything out of it, and you can itemize your day/week/year, how do you change your "perspective" to make that okay?
