Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[Sweetbriar]

AS...you are amazing with what you have been through and where you are today. I can only hope that I can be as strong as you and get to be in a place where you are, where I can look at H and not feel that ache. I love to read your posts. You have such and awesome attitude toward your sitch. You have also given me some great advice on my situation and I appreciate that. I hope that one day, I can be where you are today, closer to reconciliation.

You and your W are in my thoughts, as I hope that things will work out and she will be back where she belongs, along with your children...in your home! I am sorry that your D16 is having a hard time, I know the feeling too well with my D14. Its so unfair to them, being stuck in a situation that they did not create and they cannot control. Its such a hard age to have this happen.

I also went through my parents divorce and it was bad. The difference is, my dad was an alcoholic and I always justified it in my teenage head that it was better since they fought all the time. My H and I didnt fight hardly ever (until OW happened) and so my kids were blindsided, as was I.

You are an inspiration to me to continue on this DBing path and continue the NC and doing what is best for the kids and I. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you to not have your kids with you all the time, as that is sometimes what keeps me going. I wonder that about my H as well..how can he function with seeing his kids just a few hours a week?

I read your Thanksgiving post and thought, wow, he was alone and still had a great day.

Hope your sitch continues to move in an upward motion!

SB