I am trying to figure out my financial situation. H and I have always had a joint account where both our paychecks are automatically deposited. Since I have opened my own account, I have been transferring money to my account from the joint. Both of our Ds have their own accounts. I would transfer money to them from the joint account. So, one joint account....three separate accounts. My H knew both girls had accounts and I told him I opened my own account. He did know of all the accounts, but somehow now he "doesn't know anything about them"!
He gets paid every two weeks. I get paid once at the end of the month. Last Friday was his payday. When I checked the account, no deposit from his pay. He finally told me he stopped direct deposit. He wanted to know where all the money was going and what all of it was for. Of course, I have never had to explain where money went. Ever. He said he would be paying the bills, which I have always done. He wants me to tell him the what the bills are, how much they are and when they are due. Plus, I have to ask for money for the girls and my expenses.
He makes over 7 times what I do in a month. So, even if he is paying all the household bills, I can't afford all of my and Ds expenses on my paycheck.
Legal separation really isn't done in my state. I DON'T want to start divorce proceedings. But, I really don't want to have to ask my H for money every two weeks. He just wants control over me and knows I can't afford to do anything financially without him involved. He wants the power and wants to micromanage my life.
