WAS vs. LBS

[Soul.Searching]

AJ, I know you never said anything about not protecting a boundary, I never said you did. I don't think I implied that either. Maybe I'm wrong but I though CV said that her H lies, although not always a straight out lie. That's beside the point though. My question was regarding an actual lie.

I find a lot of wisdom in this thread. It was more of a generalized
question. If you take in to account the perceptions of what a lie is without actually lying, then that is a whole new discussion.

My question was more of a generalized question regarding out right lying. I find a lot of wisdom in what you say. The question was not directed to your posts as a whole. It was directed at the part I quoted. I find it insightful but whated your view on the question. It was not meant to "Challenge" anything you have said. It was simply me asking for your perception to my q
question.

My question was more so regarding me personally. That's why I worded it using me as an example.
I could be wrong but I'm thinking that this is also what CV has been trying to ask.
I used lying as an example but I think CV is asking the same questions. Not only with lying but also other examples. Eg money. This is an example as I can not speak for CV. But let's just say,.., CV needs the bank account to increase, rather than decrease. She needs to feel financially stable for the futcure. Say CVs H spends constantly on himself.
I'm asking your your opinion on how to try to reach a compromise or is this something she either needs to accept or move on.


I hope this makes some sort of sense. My head is just spinning right now.

I can see now, the problem with this thread. Your looking at the grey areas where as I think CV is looking at the black and white.

I was looking at it as though a lie is a lie.

I think maybe you could be a little more detailed with your examples in order to help CV.

To me a lie is a lie. I don't see how you can change your perspective on that.
If its not an actual lie but rather not a whole truth, then I can, no actually I can't really see how to change your perception on that either.
Is hiding the truth, not just as bad?

Okay I think I need to reply later on my PC cause this phone makes it harder. I think I have just written a whole load of dribble, I'm going to post it anyway.