TheUF - Changing gears - Dropping the rope?

[chatterbug]

there is only one way to handle all situations. Stop thinking of them as situations.

Think of everything as communication.

Handle it with Respect, grace and fairness. Fairness to yourself. Fairness to your son. Fairness to the mother of your child.

Live in those thoughts. You control yourself. This is detachment.

Far to many people here think detachment means taking your time to answer based on some 24 hour rule. Being aloof and hindering communication to by time. Becoming some emotionless shell as soon as the 'FAKE SMILES' and upbeat 'your the best person in the world' hello get you nowhere.

That is not detachment.

Detachment is the ability to communicate effectively on important communications between the two people without emotion and the ability to skip the conversations that are just pounding sand or feeling fact finding missions.

Detachment is the ability to learn that only you control yourself.

We used to call it the smile and wave theory.

Practice it until it becomes you.

Detachment is protection from yourself as much as the craziness of the walkaway's life.