I never said "I'm standing" or words to that effect.
I told OUR KIDS, when they asked, that I hoped we "would not divorce b/c I love their dad very much", and or "we've loved each other a long time", etc....
but not once did I tell my h that. I feel it would have back fired on me.
The fact that I didn't file for divorce AND was as warm and upbeat as I could be around him, said enough as far as I was concerned. In fact the actions were what "spoke" the loudest.
I GAL big time. Made me happier, which convinced me I'd be okay no matter what.
Once convinced, I think my belief radiated to my h, and HE came to wonder what was going on and maybe his choices were not so great...
and things turned around eventually.
IF HE had said "Let's divorce" I might have said "I wish we could work this out instead" but I would not have pleaded...or argued.
that's NOT DBing.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
