Hello Been awhile since I've posted. Things are still not great. My husband has been having fits of explosive anger. The last one was over not finding a tv remote which was on the couch where he left it. I threatened to spend thanksgiving somewhere else and talked to my therapist who said I should give him a pass in the interest of not having him back out of therapy.
My son doesn't try his best because he hates school. He is planning on going into the service so I will be happy if he graduates. My husband has had strife with s because of school and my son borrows things without asking and loses them or breaks them. But my husband gets like a demon with his temper. He threatened to kick him out for borrowing his jacket without asking (he did it once before) and 2 weeks ago blew up at s over his grades and my son left for a week.
I had made a counselling appt. for tonight and my h backed out saying he had an astronomy club meeting. I looked it up and there is no meeting. I wonder if I should mention it or not. Is that considered snooping? I thought I would ask him how his meeting went and see what he says.
H is making efforts to spend time with me but when we are together he acts bored or distracted and I caught him looking at another woman. I said something like "why do you keep looking over there?" and he simply got mad and said "I always look around" H is annoyed at me frequently when I ask questions or even talk. I have told him I don't want to live like this and he just says "it's not just you" No it's with my son and sometimes my daughters as well. My friend, whom I have confided in thinks maybe he wants me to finally tell him to get out but he would still look like a heel. Also his mom and brother know nothing about his infidelity to me and they would have to know. H may or may not care if they do.
Should I mention that I know he is lying if he says he went to a meeting or let it be for now? I figure if he keeps this behavior up I will ask him to leave but after christmas. Then his mom will have to know but I won't ruin christmas.
