Thanks yet again Wendylon. W did not reply - I didnt expect her to either!! As you say, I have learned from it, now I need to forget it and move on.

So my first day in the house all alone! dropped S off at school this morning and won't see him now until Friday evening. It was the strangest feeling ever coming home from work and having no dog, kids or W when I got in. I got changed and went straight to the gym!! Only a few months ago our house was bursting at the seems. Now eldest S at University and everyone else gone including the dog! To think all those times over the years I would say to myself - what I would give for a bit of peace and quiet smile. Be careful what you wish for.......

I text W to see how S had settled and that dog was ok - I know I am going dim but kept it strictly about S and dog. She replied they were fine and even made a joke with a smiley text! I replied glad they are ok and left it at that.

One thing that has been on my mind is that reading other peoples sitchs they seem to have had the conversation at some point where they make it clear they are standing and fighting for the M or R. We have never had that conversation. I said I support her decision etc etc.

Have I missed a key stage in DBing?

My plan going forwards is to go dim during the week but when I see her for transfer of S to be as upbeat as possible and obviously keep going with the 180's. I hope some of the pressure may be lifted from W now that she has moved out properly and that she will have time to think about things properly. But given MLC lasts anywhere between 2 and 5 yrs its going to be a long wait.

I have been given the gift of time and I intend to use it! If this ever does work out I will never wish for a bit of peace and quiet again smile