AJ, SS is asking because SHE has issues with her H lying. Perhaps it would just be easier to assume that the lying is a globally accepted definition of lying, so as to not confuse the advice given her with a sidebar debate.
As to my email with H, I wasn't angry at all when I wrote that to him. Perhaps you're reading into it because you know my sitch. Perhaps it's just my communication style. I realize it's out of context. I'm still not angry about it, though, really just rather matter-of-fact.
I was trying to point out how I interpret his behavior. I've highlighted the consistent theme throughout and the direct statement of how it appears to me.
My question about the urgency is that you seem frantic to do something to fix FIL and MIL's relationship (as if you have that power,) but rather indifferent to our issues that have been going on for years. I don't get that. Is it because you figure you have 6 years so there's no rush?From the outside looking in, it appears that you are more concerned about their marriage than you are your own. You blow off my suggestion to wait and do it in person because you feel like you need to do something right away even if it's in email or by phone. THAT'S a sense of urgency. With me, it's "I've got a counseling session next Tuesday..".... as you go back to shopping craigslist or looking at joke emails from Conrad, etc.
What does that have to do with S12? Or anything else you pulled from his response? How is does his response take into consideration anything that I said other than "I feel like I do sense urgency"? That's the disjunct I'm seeing. It's the equivalent of "Do you have a favorite color?" "Yes, the number fourteen!"
