MLC, affair, internet pictures, we're a mess

[cantslowdown]

There was no illegal action on their part. She could probably lose her job if they found out. I told her that its not me who she has to worry about telling the school, but him. When their realtionship goes south, all he has to do is talk. Then it is done.

I don't see her moving out (even though I said GO), so I am going to hold her to this communication thing (even though I still have no clue what I am doing there and told the counselor that it is the sticking point. We don't know how to get the other to effectively understand what we think we are saying). At least she is headed back to the MC in two weeks with me and we are supposed to have our needs lists written and ready.

Neither of us wants to be the part time parent, but everytime I bring up the fact that we have children that will be affected by what we do, I am being told that I am using them as pawns (by my wife, I don't believe I ever heard the counselor say that). Apparently if what I get out of this marriage is keeping my family together and a better future for all of us even though the now [censored], I am wrong because I am thinking about the children. That is why I stood FIRM at the end about that if she wants to go, go, but I am not helping her leave. That is her decision and I do not support it.