She thinks I am dependant on him and unrealistically want to sort things out.
Sounds to me like she's not marriage-friendly. Unfortunately not many MC's are.
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She tried to force him to decide try with me or leave for her.
Bad, bad, BAD move. This is NOT the time for ultimatums. Especially from a MC!! Unbelievable.
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He all but said leave and is seeing her next week so she can help him make his decision.
Of course he did, when a WAS feels caged in if you force an ultimatum on them they basically see it as "option 1- remain in cage" or "option 2- be free!!" What an idiotic move on the part of your MC. The proper thing to do is REMOVE all pressure! Do not force decisions! Validate their emotions without agreeing/ disagreeing, and give them time and space.
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Think it's hopeless - he has no interest in trying to work it out.
You're only a month since BD. Things nearly always seem pretty hopeless right after BD. You've got to DB for months before you see results, and even longer before you know which way things will go.
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He keeps saying I do not have the type of body he is attracted to and never have had
Took him 17 years to figure that out? Don't get bogged down in what he says, one of the DB tips says not to believe anything they say and only half of what they do. He may not seem like it, but he's hurting and confused and will say hurtful things.
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He also can't get past the fact I have a higher income than him and doesn't want to continue in that situation even though he was always aware that would be the case when we married.
All I can say when I see stuff like this is these men must have serious low self-esteem issues. Does he really draw his self-worth from how much he makes? And you're "better" than him because you make more? How can he not just be tickled pink that the more you make, the more money the family has? Makes no sense.
