You need to be very clear with yourself about what you want before you go looking online. And you need to be very clear about who you are and what you want in the profile you will post.
The basics: Find some recent, attractive photos of yourself. Not provacative or you will just get booty calls. The same in what you write - if it is all sexual - that's what you will get. And trust me - you will get plenty of it even if you're not asking for it.
Set your standards high - you have to decide who you feel would be a good match for your future - not just dating but who could be GOOD for you, eventually good for Gabby, someone who wants a relationship - not just a Sat night date (unless that is also what you want).
I had high expectations. Some of them included: Must be employed - with earning power equal to or greater than myself (I did not want to support someone else - I have 3 kids), must not have a huge debt (ok - you can't find that out online but early on you need to figure that out), must have time to date (not working 2 jobs or having their kids at home 24/7), must not be a smoker or heavy drinker (although one who enjoyed a good bottle of wine was important for me), must love to travel, must enjoy the great outdoors, must not have cheated (ok - again - you kind of ask how their relationships have ended AFTER you've met them).
Gineen - it's almost like a job at first. There is important ground work to do. And you need to weed them out based on your list. Or if something just doesn't feel right. But remember that it really is having similar goals, values and morals that really helps make a relationship work. And that spark. But you meet to find that out. And you need to kiss some frogs before you find your prince.
I wish you the best in this endeavor. I'm sure you will be successful. I'll be glad to give you input if you make up a sample profile.
