A newcomer's story

[justjudy]

Hi AS, I have already read some of your thread and posts elsewhere so already know that your perspective and POV is right on the same track as my own thought progress and that you give good sensible feedback. I feel very privileged that you read andd responded for me.

I'm still waiting for DR, also ordered Jim conways book. Just before Christmas delivery from amazon to Australia will take longer than normal i guess .

I hadn't really thought about looking for baby steps altho when you point it outr its obvious. Can't see beyond the big "wish" that he will just change his mind and come home I suppose but I totally know that isn't how it works.

And I do see baby steps...he now texts me back almost straightaway, used to trake hours sometimes which was bizarre for a man who is attached to his phone. Yesterday I sent message saying our D17 had a doctor appointment, we discussed back and forth that we thought she was just very run down after finishing her exams, she rang me after her consult, I asked her to ring her dad to let him know ans he them messaged me to say thanks for getting her to ring and wrote that "our wise heads" had got the diagnosis right...wow that was almost a compliment!

He has been renting a house nearby since he moved out. The girls like that he is close by, D10 doesn't want to be far from me and D17 visits spontaneously which she wouldnt do if he wasn't close by. Anyway, his lease ran out and he has to move. I thought he might move closer to OW but he hasnt, D10 tells me is moving down the street from his current sitch. Good for my girls. Wow a decision that doesn't smell of complete selfishness!

Already I can see the positives of this forum. Thanks all who have taken the time to read and respond. Really helps to talk to someone in the same situation with the same goals rather than well meaning friends who don't quite get where I am trying to head so why I react or respond the way I do.