MLC, affair, internet pictures, we're a mess

[cantslowdown]

the only upsdie is the counselor told her the other guy has to go if she wants to work on the marriage (she doesn't want to do either) and everyone agreed to meet again in 2 weeks with a list of "my needs" and she'll have a list of "her needs" that we will not show each other until then.

When I said she's always gone and so we don't have real time set aside to communicate, she said she'd be home tonight, but I decided to get the oil changed in my car (which is leaking at the filter). Essentially its my fault no matter what happens EVER!?!?!