Heavy Lifting Solo

[Breakdown]

You sound good and that makes me smile :-)

Thanks Busting. I'm in a pretty good place, but it ebbs and flows. Sometimes the limbo seems awesome and sometimes it seems like someone is sitting on my chest.

"Enjoy the moment", I think I heard that somewhere before . It's really been helping me so thanks for tip and just remember those 3 words.

I'm just passing it forward When I got to focusing on each day, I really did get to a sense of peace that I hadn't been able to get to prior. Breaking that down to the "moments" really takes it to another level. I have to remind myself too....but it works.

I think you handled her story on Friday pretty well. Playing 20 questions never ends well. My problem is in past I wouldn't believe my W's answers half the time anyway so it just started a fight for no reason.

Yeah, the problem with us is that it's trust on both sides. My W doesn't trust me not to flip out when she tells me the truth, so she lies. And when she lies, it makes me think it must really be something bad for her to lie about. We've talked about it and both understand the dynamic, but it's been years in the making and is hard to unravel. All I can do is focus on my part...being calm and understanding so building that trust, so that she feels safe telling me anything. Of course, with pending D on the horizon, that's no easy task.