that's great news! I wish my H didn't leave and now he has said "its too late" but I don't know how to tell him ITS NEVER TOO LATE!!!! I will read through your latest thread. I am worried about "more of the same" and trust is a huge issue for us right now, its one of my goals - to have him trust me again. I know in my heart if he can get past that, we can get past this. but its going to take a while which is why im willing to wait (move on but leave my heart open as i say). So my approach will be to get out and do things but with people he knows and trusts, and to be very open when he asks things of me. But im not going to volunteer unless he asks.